My Wife, My Ex-Wife, and ME!
Imagine a groundbreaking podcast where your current wife and your ex-wife share a mic. In this captivating podcast, Denny takes center stage as he navigates conversations with Jamie, his ex-wife, and Amanda, his present wife, using nothing but a microphone to untangle the complexities of their intertwined lives. Together, they explore the challenges and triumphs of parenting, tackling sensitive subjects such as divorce, co-parenting, and the emotional journey of overcoming cancer while cheering on their shared daughter, Audrey. Throughout the episodes, our trio courageously confronts the realities of their relationships, discussing adoption, the dynamics of blended families, and the sometimes turbulent waters of step-parenting. This podcast invites listeners into an authentic dialogue about life and family, emphasizing the theme of "parenting without excuses." With humor, honesty, and heartfelt insight, Denny, Jamie, and Amanda offer a refreshing perspective on what it truly means to support one another as co-parents and navigate the complexities of modern family life.
My Wife, My Ex-Wife, and ME!
Handling Different Life Trajectories in a Relationship
Ever wondered what it's like to host a podcast with your wife, ex-wife? Picture the hilarity and chaos as we navigate our blended family dynamics, recounting a hilarious home security mishap featuring our son, Braxton. From tech glitches to light-hearted banter about differing life goals, this episode promises a rollercoaster of emotions and laughter.
This week, we also dive into property dealings and the bittersweet emotions of leaving behind a cherished home. Brayden shares his hectic week, including selling his house in Tipton, Indiana, sparking a heartfelt conversation about unmet goals and past relationships. Plus, don't miss our spirited debate on fantasy football, where we brainstorm a fun punishment wheel for our TGCSOD Family Fantasy Football League—think bizarre outfits and hilarious penalties!
Relationships can be a maze, and we're here to navigate it with you. Hear Amanda's tale of clashing life aspirations with a high school sweetheart, the intricate dance of balancing multiple jobs and house renovations, and the emotional rollercoaster of dealing with mental health challenges. Whether it's the absurdity of artificial pig insemination or the serious topics of counseling and infidelity, this episode is packed with humor, heart, and invaluable life lessons.
I'm Amanda, the wife, and I'm Jams the ex-wife and I'm Brayden, just the future.
Speaker 3:Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Denny Broins. I'm the only man dumb enough to get his wife and ex-wife in a studio to do a podcast.
Speaker 4:And here it is my wife, my ex-wife and me is my wife, my ex-wife and me, that peace and happiness might be found there. You gave me hope and now, now we have to say goodbye.
Speaker 3:Ouch, if there's any bitches in this room, then there's something.
Speaker 5:I gotta say For all the, fools who fell for the first Girl who comes their way, way.
Speaker 4:I've been down that road and now I'm back sitting on square one, one trying to pick myself up where I started from.
Speaker 3:My Wife, my Ex-Wife and Me starts now Starts right now. Welcome to this week's edition of my Wife, my Ex-Wife and Me Colts football season kickoff edition. That's right. Just 38 minutes from right now Is the light on.
Speaker 2:Which light? You know which light.
Speaker 3:Oh no, it has to be turned on.
Speaker 2:I probably had to leave at 1 and go turn it on. It's a commencement.
Speaker 3:It'll be late because of James. So it is a commencement, but we will have to be. Oh Jesus, I'm sorry We'll have to be a little late.
Speaker 5:Great Season's over now, stephanie, we're so excited to have you watch.
Speaker 3:Thank you, Stephanie, for watching us.
Speaker 1:How do you know Stephanie's watching? That's what I do.
Speaker 3:It says it on my screen. I can't see it. So we are simulcasting Podcasting. Today there's no TikTok. We couldn't get TikTok to coordinate with us, so we are live on YouTubecom, forward slash at TGC SOD. Or you can find us on Facebook at Facebook Live. So look for us there and, by the way, tell a friend about us, won't you please? So here we are. You haven't told any friends. Nobody you know watches or listens to the podcast your mom does.
Speaker 3:I guess she didn't used to no she was a guest and then she realized, hey, this is kind of fun. Stood in the corner for 45 minutes.
Speaker 5:That's incredible and agreed with everything I had to say.
Speaker 3:I want you to know, then that means she's not welcome back. Not everything you say is good. I can't help it, that I'm right.
Speaker 5:Yeah.
Speaker 3:You can't help a lot of things.
Speaker 5:I also just scared the crap out of Braxton.
Speaker 3:Just now, mm-hmm, was he in there doing stuff On the camera.
Speaker 5:Yeah, he came out and he was watching the TV out in the hallway and I set the siren off Talking talking about torturing your children with home security.
Speaker 2:Did he touch the ceiling with his head? He jumped so high?
Speaker 5:No, because honestly, that's not the first time I've done it to him, so at least he knows what it is now. Did you record it? No, it's live.
Speaker 2:He's like a fish though, Like oh, there's a shiny hook, that's weird, but it's got a worm on it.
Speaker 3:It's going to get me single time.
Speaker 5:Like the lawnmower.
Speaker 3:We can't make those jokes. I told Brayden I want to go home. I said Brayden Braxton can never know of this. He would be. He would say I knew it, he would run faster than he's ever ran. Anyway, thanks again for joining us this week. Um. This week, our discussion is advice for couples who have differing outlooks or aspirations in life now I'm going to start out by saying my first wife and I totally different directions on what we wanted out of life like what completely different.
Speaker 2:Give me some examples, give a couple examples, yeah.
Speaker 3:Well, I'll give more examples, I just want everybody to know the topic.
Speaker 2:He doesn't smoke Camel 99s.
Speaker 3:No, I also wouldn't have smoked if I were pregnant all the way through.
Speaker 1:That's wrong with that. Definitely you Gotta be me, gotta be me. I don't think she stopped through, garrett, she was actually better with you than she was Garrett.
Speaker 3:She smoked more because when Garrett came she was like this is like number four.
Speaker 5:Health phenomenon. Smoking actually causes more intelligence. Do it more.
Speaker 2:It just makes you lose hair. I guess Garrett's bald now, that's gonna hurt.
Speaker 3:Hey, let's do some introductions, shall we? Let's start with this one. Over here To my left, it's my ex-wife who is stretching because she's been out of bed for about 14 minutes. My ex-wife jams you ruined everything, you stupid bitch.
Speaker 4:So stupid. You ruined everything. You're such a stupid bitch. You're just a lying little bitch who ruins things, every goddamn thing and wants the world to burn. Bitch. You're a stupid bitch and lose some weight.
Speaker 3:Say hello jams, hello, how was?
Speaker 1:your week.
Speaker 3:It was good. What are you typing over there?
Speaker 5:She's changing her name.
Speaker 2:I can't listen to that anymore.
Speaker 5:She's probably changing your name.
Speaker 2:Without saying the B word. I just can't, I can't. I hear it 47 times in that intro. It brings something out of me.
Speaker 1:I kind of liked your jammy jams, jammy jams.
Speaker 3:I did jammy jams. I put that in for you.
Speaker 1:No, jammy jams isn't so bad, jammy jams oh jammy jams.
Speaker 3:If you're watching on one of these streaming services, you'll see that I the Boss. Capital letter, the Capital word.
Speaker 5:The Affectionately named by yourself.
Speaker 3:Yeah, hey, whatever. Brayden named himself Handsome, which might be why he gets in so much trouble. I don't remember putting that there. And Mandarin is the nickname I gave Amanda very soon after I met her, and it has just stuck like the orange.
Speaker 4:And Jammy Jams there because there's always in pjs, there's always cp.
Speaker 3:Uh, that's not good uh, anyway, I am always sleeping jams. How was your life this week? Tell us about it. Um, I wish I had Sarah McLachlan to play In the arms of the angels Brady just about.
Speaker 1:If you would have played it, that would have summed up my week. There is no God, but your room.
Speaker 3:Yeah, in the end, you feel.
Speaker 1:Just a dollar donation. That's the SPC, just a dollar donation.
Speaker 3:Just $13 a month you can do that on OnlyFans $13 a month.
Speaker 2:We figured it out.
Speaker 3:Play Sarah McLachlan and show your boobs. You get $13 a month. We're going to be real sad. Oh, sad boobs, can we? $13 a month? We're going to be real sad, sad boobs.
Speaker 2:Can we make money off?
Speaker 5:sad boobs Absolutely Nobody likes sad boobs.
Speaker 2:Veronica V did it on Shameless. Tell me about all your problems while I iron these clothes with my top off.
Speaker 5:Yeah, but those weren't sad boobs.
Speaker 2:You'd just be laying flooring in your kitchen. That'd be weird. It'd be a little weird Cleaning trim naked.
Speaker 5:I mean look you can have that belt on Putting diapers on the dogs.
Speaker 2:You can have the belt on. You can have a baby in one hand.
Speaker 3:I think we have just solved all of your problems.
Speaker 2:A drill in the other.
Speaker 3:I don't want to hear you complain anymore, because we've given you the blueprint to fix it.
Speaker 5:We've given you the solution. I don't want to hear you complain anymore because we've given you the blueprint to fix it.
Speaker 2:We've given you the solution Now. It's just yours to take with. Do what you will. Topless handy woman, fifteen dollars a month.
Speaker 3:She's so mad right now.
Speaker 2:No, these are ventures that I think should be. I think I am.
Speaker 3:So good week, bad week, it was a bad week.
Speaker 1:It's been rough, it's been rough, it's been rough, it's been real rough, but you're getting better.
Speaker 3:Your mindset is getting better.
Speaker 1:It's been rough it's been real rough yeah in between stepmom number two and stepmom number three, it's mr handsome brayden and some braden hello, braden.
Speaker 3:Hi, how are you feeling on this week of more? What's the word? I'm looking for more evidence in your hearing coming up. Busy, busy.
Speaker 2:Busy. Why so busy Busy? A lot of things, A lot of things.
Speaker 3:Got your house up for sale, that's right.
Speaker 2:If you're looking for a house in Tipton Indiana there's a good deal.
Speaker 3:Braden can hook you up, offering a 2% discount today and today, only Today and today. Only. I tell you that If you buy his house today, even you know what we'll make a deal. Even if you don't pay for it today, if you just commit to buy it.
Speaker 2:See, there's a problem. I do have a problem there. You gotta commit, sorry.
Speaker 3:That's what I just said. That's what he said commit. You said to commit. Sorry, that's what I just said.
Speaker 2:That's what he said Commit you said you commit, you don't have to pay. Oh, you have to pay today. That's what I mean.
Speaker 3:You have to pay.
Speaker 2:Well, nobody can get a mortgage on a Sunday.
Speaker 3:No, I want it in writing.
Speaker 4:Well that's commit. You want an offer?
Speaker 5:That's what we said.
Speaker 3:For a 2% discount happens. How much of a commission do I get for facilitating this 4% 0.8% 0.8?
Speaker 5:Yeah, I want 2.8. We're going to discount it. We're going to discount it 2%, we get 4%.
Speaker 3:It's a busy week. Little Inn Street will not be the same without you on it, oh.
Speaker 2:I'm going to be very happy to leave, really Very happy to leave, yeah, oh, I'm going to be very happy to leave, really Very happy to leave, yeah, now that I am now my living arrangements how they are, I despise that house. I do not even want to look at it again. I don't know why.
Speaker 5:I think it's because I feel that I shared it for a period of time with a certain someone.
Speaker 2:Well, honestly, that kind of feels like a dream, it feels like a fever dream. Well, honestly, that kind of feels like a dream.
Speaker 5:It feels like it didn't really happen, a fever dream. It wasn't. It happened.
Speaker 3:But I feel like I could have had a fever dream too, except I was never told that this was happening. I just kept getting mail that was tipping me off. Brayden made a mistake one day when he said just open my mail and tell me what it is. So now, when he gets mail, I just open it and I'm like you, little motherfucker, Every fucking time.
Speaker 2:Whoa, what happened? What did you open?
Speaker 3:What piece of mail did you open, besides maybe a bill that made you do?
Speaker 2:that.
Speaker 3:Oh no, that's how I first learned that you had parted ways with your attorney Because you didn't need him anymore, because you were going to fix your relationship and your life. I love when Brayden's caught, he goes, and then his shoulders drop every time.
Speaker 2:He's sitting like this and he's like it's just me tucking my teeth. You know how many years of practice.
Speaker 3:I've had, that's because I'm the man of the house.
Speaker 2:No, you're not, you're right. I'm sorry, somebody else is.
Speaker 1:Somebody else is my leave.
Speaker 2:But it's. I feel like I failed that house. I really do. I had a lot of goals and ideas and I didn't do any of them. I feel like I failed.
Speaker 3:Well, you got the steps done.
Speaker 5:Two years, you got the steps done.
Speaker 3:Right before you sold it or are selling it.
Speaker 5:You've rearranged and cleaned and fixed the garage 27 times 27?
Speaker 3:2,700 times, yeah, yeah, he's.
Speaker 2:I wanted a life out there, so bad. I yeah, he's uh I wanted a life out there so bad. I just wanted my own space and then the whole house was your space. I know, but it never really felt like it. It never. I I don't know, I didn't like it. You guys want me to cry?
Speaker 1:I will probably why will you fake news?
Speaker 2:because, like I said, I feel like I failed that house. I feel like that had a lot of potential and I I I.
Speaker 5:To be fair, you did take it further than when you bought it.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm. Yeah, it is better than when you got it. I hope so by a mile. I hope so. Hey, let's do some more introductions, shall we? Oh yeah, would we like to introduce my wife? You remember her. Let's go across the table in, not in between. Next to young handsome Brayden, yep, and across from me it's my beautiful wife, mandarin.
Speaker 4:I'm a bad bitch and I got bad anxiety. People call me rude because I ain't letting them try me Saying I'm a hoe because I'm in love with my body.
Speaker 5:Issues, but nobody I can talk to about it.
Speaker 4:They keep saying I should get help, but I don't even know what I need. They keep saying speak your truth and at the same time say they don't believe. Man, excuse me, while I get into my feelings for a second. Usually I keep it down, but today I gotta tell it. Not that anybody gives a fuck anyway, but everybody talking shit probably sucks anyway. Y'all don't even know how I feel. I don't even know how I deal Today. I really hate everybody.
Speaker 5:And that's just me being real.
Speaker 4:Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday.
Speaker 2:Bad bitches have bad days too.
Speaker 4:Friday, Wednesday, Thursday bad bitches have bad days too. Friday, Saturday, Sunday bounce back, hi, bad bitch always too. All I really want to hear is it'll be okay, Bounce back, because a bad bitch can have bad day Bounce back because a bad bitch can have bad day.
Speaker 3:How's it going baby Good, Having a good week. It was a good week.
Speaker 5:It was a short week, yeah.
Speaker 3:Why was it so?
Speaker 5:short. I didn't work on Monday, feels like it was the longest week. I didn't work on Wednesday.
Speaker 3:Were you off work on Monday. She was. She was with us, so everybody was off work. We went kayaking this week.
Speaker 5:We did. We took all of the kids kayaking.
Speaker 3:Which was a good time.
Speaker 5:Didn't we go on Sunday? We did.
Speaker 3:We did, but it was the week I was at your house still house for something on Monday.
Speaker 5:We went shooting.
Speaker 3:And then you and Caleb went and looked at that building. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5:So we had, I've decided Jims Breaking news.
Speaker 3:Do I need to play?
Speaker 5:it. I mean, I suppose you can Nah Okay.
Speaker 2:The moment's passed.
Speaker 5:I realized I really like Sunday dinners at your house. So thanks for that. Why? Because that was a lot of fun. We came in, I brought all of my heathens we ate, I kind of cleaned up the mess and then we left. It was so nice.
Speaker 3:That is pretty nice. We both enjoyed it. Got a splinter in my foot, but everything else was good, Good news is see you after this.
Speaker 2:Hope everything's ready.
Speaker 5:No, you're cooking today, remember.
Speaker 3:Oh, that's right. You said, because it's 11, that you were going to cook.
Speaker 1:And it's Grandparents Day, and here's what I thought was First.
Speaker 4:I thought there was going to be a babysitter because, but they're doing a good job so far.
Speaker 3:Don't rock the boat.
Speaker 1:I guess when he said he would cook for all of us, I don't know why I just I didn't really pay attention to times or anything on the text messaging.
Speaker 3:If you're just now getting to the podcast Jams was late today, Very late, real late.
Speaker 1:We're podcasting late in the week.
Speaker 3:I hate podcasting on Sunday, but Brayden needed to be with his kids on Friday night, so we moved it to Sunday at 11, which was all part of a text message.
Speaker 5:To be fair, there's a lot of nonsense that goes in that text message as well. Yeah, like here's a little tiny sprinkle of information, the rest of it is just insults.
Speaker 1:Well, then you go insults a little information, insults a little information, and then the nonsense that makes no sense to anybody, because denny texts the wrong chat.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I said still at one. I was like, oh god, it's 12, 45, where am I supposed to be?
Speaker 3:well, you know what. Let's move on to something interesting, shall we? It's the tgc SOD Family Fantasy Football League. Yeah, it's that time of year. I know what you're saying to yourself. Hey, the season hasn't even started yet. You're right, the season hasn't started yet. Well, it's starting today. It started Thursday.
Speaker 4:You just got to keep mumbling.
Speaker 3:I will, but we have to do it differently this year For some reason. I can't turn this thing down.
Speaker 1:Oh no, Just talk over it, Denny, because that's what you make us do all the time. It's not loud. It's not loud. You can hear yourself think you can do this.
Speaker 2:Come on, denny, I can talk football all day with this, just like this. Who should I start? Kirk, cousins or Tua?
Speaker 5:Tua, tua all day. What are the names? Yes, who do they play?
Speaker 1:for Kirk.
Speaker 2:Cousins and Tua Tungabailoa. Ooh who do they play for? Kirk Cousins and Tua Tungabailoa? Ooh, play that one. Which one Tua Tungabailoa Because of the tongue? What team does he play for? Huh, which one, though? That?
Speaker 3:one. Oh, miami, that's what you said, no, I did say Miami, oh, you did. Yeah, stick your tongue out sideways so everybody can see how far it goes. Is it still this?
Speaker 2:long. Well, it didn't fucking shrink. Boy, so aggressive, you're the one that has a birth defect, I'm the one in trouble.
Speaker 3:Let's talk about the Family Fantasy Football League.
Speaker 2:Berenstain Busset Biscuits checking in.
Speaker 1:Mandarin is running the league this year, Amanda tell them my new name, jambalamba.
Speaker 3:She's so happy about that.
Speaker 1:I do want to point out that that was my country music, like the really do it again do it again you made me break my showstopper sound effect out. I didn't take my meds today, so we should probably hurry.
Speaker 2:Is that deliverance in the Special Olympics? I don't think you can say that. I don't think so. Well.
Speaker 3:I did Mark the time.
Speaker 2:I've got a court date in December.
Speaker 3:Add it to it we are actually live right now, so there's no marking the time. Now this has cut my editing time down to almost nothing, which is kind of nice. So here's the thing I won the league last year.
Speaker 2:You did Nobody's clapping.
Speaker 3:I am the champion of the TGC SOD Family Fantasy Football League.
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, now it's going to be, even because we're going to be, if we're going to do it this year.
Speaker 3:Raise your hand if you have won the league. Didn't you win? Yeah, so 75% of us have won the league. Oh, I came out of nowhere.
Speaker 2:I didn't see your hand move.
Speaker 1:I missed it. I say the same thing. You came out of nowhere, I didn't even see your hand move, I missed it I say the same thing. He came out of nowhere. It was real quick. That's what he says.
Speaker 3:And I saw her hand move.
Speaker 2:So if we're going to do it, if we're going to do it, the punishment wheel needs to be honored.
Speaker 3:I do agree that there will be a punishment wheel and not weird stuff about pee on yourself.
Speaker 1:I can't pee on myself.
Speaker 2:I'm not peeing on myself, Honestly if he makes it, if you make one, we all have to right now swear that we will do it.
Speaker 5:I think Loser has to host family dinner actually.
Speaker 3:Fuck, I promise. Well, it's each week Uh-huh, and it will just be the four of us. Whoever has the lowest score that week has to do. The wheel of my alexis is in it too well, but they are ancillary to the process that's fair this in here, is just okay, this is the core.
Speaker 1:Then we all have to agree what goes on the punishment, absolutely we do not so everybody no bodily fluids.
Speaker 3:So everybody brings three, everybody gives me three and we compile them Fuck. I can't think of punishments? Oh, she can. I can think of one. Marry me for five years Punishment. I can promise you I'll never have the lowest score.
Speaker 4:Wow.
Speaker 2:I can think of wall sit during the entire podcast. Stand Stand Holy shit. Okay, well, mark itz it during the entire podcast. Stand, stand during the holy shit. Okay, well, mark it down. Stand during the podcast.
Speaker 3:Do a podcast in your underwear. Do a podcast.
Speaker 5:Do a podcast in like six layers of clothing.
Speaker 3:Too many clothes, you'll be sweating and you'll be stinking for everybody else.
Speaker 2:You guys want to just watch me pass, are you?
Speaker 3:writing things down.
Speaker 5:Yeah, stand while podcasting Jams'. Punishment is no pens.
Speaker 2:Wait, wait. This is how we're doing it the lowest score, the lowest person to score in here, the three other people get to pick their outfit for the podcast and it will be aired. That's deal. That's deal. I will put a top hat and weird glasses on her and she cannot take them off.
Speaker 1:But I have headphones on.
Speaker 3:You'll figure something out. You just reminded me of Jet, somehow right there, just the way you and I, but I'll already have headphones on.
Speaker 2:Because, he's so smart.
Speaker 1:Matter of fact, standing while podcasting, you guys said other things.
Speaker 3:Standing while podcasting Extra clothes Amanda puts a finger in your butt is another one? No, oh, you're not going to do that.
Speaker 5:No.
Speaker 2:Oh, I don't want that one.
Speaker 1:I don't want Pick loser's outfit.
Speaker 2:No, that's dumb, you guys are right Headphones. I want to put something on somebody's outfit. No, that's dumb, you guys are right Headphones. I want to put something on somebody's head.
Speaker 5:Don't be silly, you'd be wearing a bikini top.
Speaker 3:Yeah A hula top. Your bird would be out and your four chest hairs would show.
Speaker 1:And what was the other one?
Speaker 3:I don't know, we'll probably figure that part out off air.
Speaker 5:James, you could pick some that are I get to wax. Fair, James, you can pick some that are I get to wax.
Speaker 3:Ooh, you could come in hairless on your beans, your beans or your labia. No hair Podcast and panties. No, that's weird. Well, I mean you could, we could, all of us be in here in just our underwear, not like we'd still have to wear a shirt, but no pants, that's alright.
Speaker 5:I'm not a shirt, but no pants. That's all right. I'm not sitting in here in no pants.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm not okay with that.
Speaker 3:Look, I'm just offering suggestions.
Speaker 2:I'm not okay with that.
Speaker 3:If you are commenting on this, we can't see it, or.
Speaker 2:I can see it. Yeah, you can Go out of full screen.
Speaker 5:I see it. Stephanie says she's so excited for this time of year.
Speaker 2:It time of year. It's our favorite time of year Mine too. We also almost get divorced every year. I wonder when it's actually going to happen.
Speaker 5:I've been waiting. He tried to divorce me yesterday at the game.
Speaker 2:Because of your stat keeping. Honestly, I don't know what's taking you guys out.
Speaker 5:First the stats in every football season and me not getting to be team mom. And picking another team mom over me.
Speaker 2:That's three things. One season.
Speaker 3:Three things Too much responsibility. Now, I'm not responsible. Got it Well. You have a full-time job and take care of all of them. So does the team mom that you take?
Speaker 2:No, no no, whoa, whoa, whoa. Not to mention he fires off things for her to do and she's like all right, got it done. All right, cool, you no argument. You would be like what are you doing that for? That's stupid. We should do it this way.
Speaker 3:I don't want to do that. I want to do it this way I will send exactly what I want and all I get is, hey, that's a good idea because it suits her schedule. That's nothing against you. I don't know what you're talking about. I think you know exactly what I'm talking. Somebody left because of this argument. Somebody said I don't want to be a party to this I don't want to watch this happen I am divorce.
Speaker 2:I am so excited for football this year. I hope on his fourth play, on his fourth snap, aaron Rodgers head falls off. I hate him, I hate him, I hate him awfully aggressive. That would be quite the television. I hate him, oh, I hate him. What if you get him? What do you mean?
Speaker 3:if I get him, I will cut him so tell everyone real quick, because we didn't have time for a draft. So what did we do?
Speaker 5:We are going to have the teams all auto-picked, so everybody's team is just going to get assigned to them by the app that we're using, and then what are some advantages to? That we are going to well. A. It's going to help the less football-y people have a more balanced like. All of the teams will be balanced. It's really helping Br. Braden Roughly Braden, you know the idiots that don't really understand what's going on. Yeah, for sure, audrey, you know they're on the same wavelength, but there is that.
Speaker 5:We also will, because we're not getting the people that we want. We'll have to trade and bargain.
Speaker 2:That's bullshit, though, because didn't last year. He just commandeer players from the kids team and say this is how we're doing it Bullshit.
Speaker 5:Never.
Speaker 1:No, I did not. Braxton would always ask.
Speaker 5:I'll give you my kicker for Jonathan Taylor. Yeah, every time.
Speaker 3:He just wanted Colts players too.
Speaker 5:Oh, you've got a third string Colts wide receiver.
Speaker 2:I'm going gonna give you my qb1 yeah, you want for your defense, you can have.
Speaker 3:I'll give you kirk cousins. All I want is michael pitman jr. That's it he 100 would make that trade I know he would, and that's not even a horrible trade. His other ones were. I'll take indie defensey defense, please, no, thank you.
Speaker 5:No, thank you. But he also doesn't understand still that just because like, oh, the Colts aren't playing right now, they're not playing at four o'clock, I've lost.
Speaker 2:We would sit right there and he's like, well, I've lost in fantasy.
Speaker 4:My team's not even playing why?
Speaker 1:And he's like the Colts aren't playing Buddy. Golly, that's not right. And then he would say I beat you, jamie.
Speaker 3:There were also times.
Speaker 2:Didn't he also send you messages?
Speaker 3:He would talk trash through the app all of the time.
Speaker 2:Boom Roasted Brayden, you lost.
Speaker 1:Roasted Brayden.
Speaker 2:Haha, Brayden, you got spanked. Little bastard. Go look at boobs some more and get caught.
Speaker 3:That needs to be his team name Boobalicious.
Speaker 5:I look at boobs.
Speaker 3:I look at boobs, big bouncy.
Speaker 1:It is. This is now I look at BBB, big bouncy boobs.
Speaker 2:It's BBT. Honestly, If we're going to be correct, Well that's.
Speaker 3:Brayden. Brayden actually searched that.
Speaker 2:Braxton looks intelligent. Braxton's are a little more sexy uncovered breasts. Thank you.
Speaker 3:His are a little more clinical and he is a clinical little bastard.
Speaker 1:Brandon's like titties.
Speaker 2:That's all. I want titties Brendan's like titties, that's all I want titties Braxton's like. Actually, if we could have some naked, uncovered, non-clothed women on the screen, that would be Awesome.
Speaker 3:These always give me an erection.
Speaker 2:Sorry, when you listen to this, 10 years from now, oh, I'm not sorry you little prick, I don't I'm going to make you. You're lucky that I'm being held back from ruining you, oh oh now I, just now I actually much more.
Speaker 3:He's much sweeter than you ever were as a child.
Speaker 2:That's why it's hard to make fun of him.
Speaker 3:He's so sweet.
Speaker 2:I got such a heart of gold Braxton you want to see boobs, and his face just gets as red as can be.
Speaker 1:Stop it Brayden.
Speaker 2:I really do, I really really Stop it right now. That's not right. I am 11. I hate girls, actually, you see that. Youtube search that you put in the family computer. How about this one on the school?
Speaker 3:iPad. That one there, that was the one with the all night porn search. All night, just one after another. And that was recently right, oh, that was two weeks ago.
Speaker 5:He did take a break and play some like school app games. Like did some math games.
Speaker 3:I used to do that too.
Speaker 5:He needed a refresher.
Speaker 3:He needed to recover. I need to recover my body. Just a little bit of a break. All right, let me go and watch some sitcoms for 10 minutes all, right back at it.
Speaker 2:It's weird, see it, just it.
Speaker 3:I need it again yeah oh, I forgot how fun that was wait till you're 50 jet and maverick are going to ruin me well, you and your brother used to do some weird stuff. I still don't understand pooping together. The girls do it too. It was the coolest.
Speaker 2:You think just Garrett and I did it. I told him.
Speaker 5:I said it's starting all over again. I go in there. Isabelle is sitting on the floor watching her phone Piper's pooping.
Speaker 2:Oh, we never hung out like that. It was always shower potty and he and I would usually just flip-flop who the hell showers?
Speaker 5:and then poops.
Speaker 2:No, no, no, it wouldn't be like that, it would just be different times Like oh, garrett's showering, cool, I'm going to break the door because he's usually locking it and he's like dude quit it, I'm in here.
Speaker 3:So, pretty much Brayden forcing him to do it. Yeah, until he liked it. We hung out and assaulted your brother, basically.
Speaker 1:So I don't see, that's fine, that's so cute.
Speaker 5:They're sitting in there pooping together. Well, I mean, she's just keeping them company.
Speaker 3:James, have you ever pooped with Caleb?
Speaker 1:No, you burst in on Caleb. She's never burst in on him pooping, have you?
Speaker 5:Yeah, so that's enough. Does he ever come in?
Speaker 3:while you're doing it.
Speaker 2:Have you ever done it? Has he ever ruined your time? How did he get past the six locked doors?
Speaker 3:Do you try and do it when no one's home?
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:That's your game. Have you ever came here when no?
Speaker 5:one's home to use the bathroom. There's never anyone, not at your house.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, but my bathroom's?
Speaker 2:in my room.
Speaker 1:It's the only operational bathroom though no, it's not All three work.
Speaker 2:There's three.
Speaker 5:Upstairs, two downstairs.
Speaker 3:So, this week's podcast. Here's what we're talking about this week we're talking about. We're obviously boring Amanda already, not true? This week we're talking about having different aspirations in life than your partner. Amanda, have you ever experienced a relationship where you had different aspirations than your partner?
Speaker 2:Yes, Is it your current one?
Speaker 3:Can you kind of give us a little peek into that point in your life?
Speaker 5:yeah, so this was, it was my like high school relationship and 42 he was substantially my 17th birthday now listen to these ages he was eight years older than me and I was 17, 18. Run that math.
Speaker 3:You told me he was 27 when you were 17. That's 10. So this isn't.
Speaker 5:He was eight years older than me. I knew him all during that time. I knew him like 15 up. But his, let me tell you, something that.
Speaker 3:I will never just say hey Audrey, this is a nice young adult man you have at our house. I would just get my gun out and just put it right to his head and say what are you doing?
Speaker 2:State your business.
Speaker 3:I don't need you to state your business.
Speaker 2:I know your business. Did your parents allow that?
Speaker 3:Well, I mean, it's kind of a family friend, right. That's even worse. Worse, hey I know you're 30.
Speaker 2:Here's my 17 year old daughter. Say hello let me introduce you guys so anywho anywho back to different aspirations yeah, he had a goddamn 401k. You weren't going to history no, that's ridiculous dude.
Speaker 5:So he, I was getting ready to like go off and go to college and do that whole thing and he didn't. He wanted me to stay there, get married and shack up and like he really, really that's. That was like a huge turning point in our relationship when I realized you really just want me to be barefoot and pregnant and not do anything. But he also was just a farmhand and lived with his grandma, so that was never going to be successful. He had all of his teeth, don't be silly.
Speaker 3:All of them, it'd be more than me. I've lost a few in the back, so he had a leg up on me right there. That's crazy, yeah. So how did you break it off? So last week it's funny last week we've been married for years, breaking news going on last week, when we did our like have you ever thing put a? Finger down.
Speaker 5:Yeah, that's what it was called um. I put that I had never ghosted anybody or I'd never broken up, or I think it was. Have you ever broken up over text message? And I realized that's not true. I did. I broke up with him quasi over text message.
Speaker 3:What did you say?
Speaker 5:Well, so what had happened was I went to school, I was in Kansas, he was still back here, he would, he got up and he was a farmhand. So, he got up at like 5 am to go jack off pigs.
Speaker 4:That's fun and breaking news has just come across the desk. In the, every joke has a little true studio.
Speaker 3:Take it away, Denny. Thank you, Tabby. It has come across this correspondence desk that there is a job out there. Of course there is. That is six degrees of separation, but in this case one degree of separation of a man that convalesces a pig to completion, Jackson off.
Speaker 5:Collects the semen.
Speaker 2:Did he have a glove?
Speaker 5:Now they have, I assume. How does he do it? Does he talk nice to it?
Speaker 2:It's a pig, though it's a curlicue.
Speaker 5:He's got to work on that. No, you got to roll it out. He would show me. You got to roll it out.
Speaker 3:It's a corkscrew, so you.
Speaker 5:He didn't show me, I've never seen it.
Speaker 3:Grab the tip. Straighten that son of a bitch out.
Speaker 5:He said you gotta flatten it out.
Speaker 3:What did it look like? Show the watchers Just flatten it out, yeah well, once you flatten it out, then what happens Show both. He holds it while the pig does its thing. Put your hand up, let me see.
Speaker 5:He's gonna hold it like this Like this.
Speaker 3:Well, I'm assuming left-handed, because he's got to hold the cup. Is it this big? No, it's not. Wait a minute. He doesn't have three hands. You can't stretch it out. Do the deed and hold the cup.
Speaker 5:You're leaving something out.
Speaker 1:You're not doing the deed.
Speaker 5:The pig is doing the motion.
Speaker 1:You put it in a. You have a teaser. I have more breaking news.
Speaker 3:How do you know so much about this?
Speaker 1:Yellowstone. Do you know how he jacks off the horse in that episode?
Speaker 2:It's like that so hold on, you just show up to the party here.
Speaker 5:It is big boy it's got like a cup and he put it in and then he's got to stretch it out and put it in and then hold it in while the pig is doing its thing.
Speaker 3:What if the pig just isn't into it that day?
Speaker 5:Well, they bring a teaser guilt in what's a guilt. One bring a teaser guilt in what's a guilt, one of those fluffers.
Speaker 3:So they actually have a pig that walks in with lipstick and says you like bacon?
Speaker 5:And then they have a fake pig that they mount.
Speaker 3:Oh, wow.
Speaker 1:Remember that Yellowstone, this is an operation. You know how pissed off I would be, as a pig.
Speaker 4:That's how they do it with all livestock Cows are artificially inseminated, uh-huh.
Speaker 5:So there has to be. If everything is done with artificial insemination on all these big farms and stuff, somebody's got to be collecting the semen.
Speaker 2:Now there's just genes, it just so happened to be your 37-year-old boyfriend when you were in high school.
Speaker 3:He. He said what could be any better than this? Did he ever? No, I can't ask oh.
Speaker 5:You're not doing it, right, anyway? So I think, before you got super sidetracked.
Speaker 2:You just decided that he jerked off pigs. You can't just say that without him doing something. Yeah.
Speaker 5:And if he wouldn't have done it, I would have flipped the table. It's not like he hasn't heard this story before, that's ridiculous.
Speaker 3:I have not heard this story before.
Speaker 5:Yes, you have, you've probably just tuned it out and hoped to never associate me with that If I knew that you were in a relationship with someone that jacked off pigs, we probably would not be together today.
Speaker 3:Whatever, boy, what a difference your life has come to so anywho, he got up at like 5 am.
Speaker 5:Well, in kansas that was 4 am and he would call me every god damn morning at 4 am. I got class in like six hours. Don't call me he's gotta make sure you're still around he and he wouldn't listen and he kept doing it and he was like clinging all that stuff, and so eventually I just stopped answering.
Speaker 3:So wait a minute. Is there a chance he's out there and thinks you're still together?
Speaker 2:No, because eventually it was like, oh, you're not answering.
Speaker 5:Oh, blah, blah, blah, blah, Like you know text throughout the day or whatever, and I'd be like, hey, we're not doing this anymore, so you know, have a good life.
Speaker 3:And you haven't seen him since.
Speaker 2:No, I don't think so it's a moment of silence.
Speaker 5:I was trying to think back, if I've like, ran into him and again family circles and whatnot. Hey, no, I haven't seen him?
Speaker 3:Hey, they still call you piglet Jesus Brayden. How about you Ever been in a relationship with different trajectory Boy? Have I Tell us about it?
Speaker 2:I was a Marine and she was a stay-at-home babysitter, stay-at-home whore. Well, that too, I don't know how she she had so much time on her hands.
Speaker 5:She also had a lot of jobs.
Speaker 2:And a lot of wieners.
Speaker 3:Well, no, she also had a lot of jobs and a lot of wieners. No, she had some jobs. She would be hired by companies that wanted to hire her, so they could fire themselves. So she could take over, take over.
Speaker 2:It was kind of like everywhere that she was employed at. It was basically like they were just going to hand her the keys to the company and then, you know, if something were to happen, it was, it was, it was. Obviously it wasn't performance related.
Speaker 4:Don't be, let's not let's not say that she doesn't show. It wasn't attendance related.
Speaker 5:Let's not be silly.
Speaker 2:It was. It was the. It was really the standard like operating procedures of the business wasn't really suited for you know her brain success. Really it was for her brain power. You know it didn't make a lot of sense, right, um, but yeah, she, uh, we. It was always like the same stuff, like we want to. You know, we want to build a house, we want to build a barn. Dominium, that was, that was always it yeah and it was always.
Speaker 2:You know, we're gonna make all this money and we're gonna do all this stuff we're gonna make all this money and you're gonna have this real big truck and I'm gonna have a durango and it's gonna be white, and I was like, well, that sounds good. Um, so how much did you make this month? Because, uh, amazon packages just are stacking up at the goddamn door and I'm wearing the jeans I had when I was in high school. So, and then it went from that to now I I mean Alexis is at night and day. We have actual goals that are reachable. It was always it was zero to two, it was zero to endless money with Brianna, with Alexis, it's like hey, we can't do this.
Speaker 3:We have to work to this we have. We have to work for actual five year plan. I used to have that with jams too, except it was, hey, we're going to do this. You can't eat for the next 14 weeks If you buy lunch, so help me, you stop and get a Coke in the morning, no more.
Speaker 2:But it's also Alexis is also.
Speaker 2:She's also lived it With her ex. They had oodles of money, they had a good life. He just pissed everything away every time he got, every time there was a comma in their bank account, he was like we got money and I got some things to buy and do in the garage while you're asleep and it would. It was she told you I have so many stories about they would get just thousands of dollars and the next weekend it would be gone and it would be like not even an explanation either and it's just with her like there are actual attainable goals with attainable you know like those are important. Uh, time frames as well. It's it, it's, it's a.
Speaker 3:It's so cool, it's so cool so I, you, I had alluded in the open about, you know, my relationship with your mother, yeah, and Clear your throat again.
Speaker 5:I don't know, you think you could get all those out of the way before we yeah, before we go on this. You're a professional.
Speaker 2:It's all good. I am a professional. I don't know why you didn't like smoking cigarettes in the house. Why didn't you just light one up? You might have liked it. I don't know.
Speaker 1:Your eyes are very clear and green today.
Speaker 3:So there were like she, we would struggle because she would not even be able to exchange pleasantries with my boss, like I got to talk to them, I don't have to. And it was always them people, them people, I don't have anything to do them people, I don't have anything to do with them people, I don't need them people. And I used to say, hey, they're our ticket to whatever's next and I always saw relationships as an opportunity and she just never did and that, if I'm being honest, very early I caught on to that and, um, I was like you know what?
Speaker 1:let's have two kids and not work out.
Speaker 3:I well. I was mine was very similar to Brayden's because Garrett was not planned. Yeah, at all. I mean Brayden wasn't planned, but it was that relationship was done before Garrett came, and it just added to my sentence Once we found out she was pregnant.
Speaker 2:How long did it add to your sentence?
Speaker 3:You got to carry the one on that one.
Speaker 4:Oh, you're always carrying the one I'm not good with quick maths.
Speaker 3:Always carrying the one. So, yeah, so this week we're talking Whoa, whoa. What about you?
Speaker 2:Jams, oh yeah, so this week we're talking Whoa.
Speaker 1:What about you, Jams? Oh yeah, Living it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, no, no, your first husband. Did you guys have the same sort of outlooks on life? All right, okay, sorry, go ahead. Pop Whatever you were saying.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think we could have. We were just really young and he was still a child a child how? About your second husband um, also still a child also this day, yeah did you have like the same goals though? Um, we had the same goal, ideas, but you'd just be easier to say no no, but we just had different ways about getting to those goals.
Speaker 5:Yeah jams's idea of getting there was to make everybody else starve.
Speaker 3:Not everybody, just me. I was the only one that ate out as part of my job.
Speaker 2:You don't like spaghetti Monday through Friday. What's your problem? James is like you know, I was asleep.
Speaker 1:I was.
Speaker 3:People made me get up, come in this. Every Joke has a Little Truth studio. And be mean. Is she getting mad at me right now?
Speaker 2:Why are you mad at me? Right now, I'm not, you're lying. Oh, I know that eye look, you just blink real slow.
Speaker 3:Jams, we all love you. I know, jammie Jams, you can't even say it back. Say it to Amanda.
Speaker 1:I love you, love you. Say it to me, love you, love you, say it to me, love you.
Speaker 2:Say it to me.
Speaker 1:Let's go.
Speaker 2:It started with an L. It starts with an L.
Speaker 3:You're going to cry when I die, maybe All right, so here are some. Oh, you guys weren't just going to ask me. No, I was trying to save you from it. I can ask you if you'd like, yes.
Speaker 2:What about your current relationship? You guys have the same goals, no.
Speaker 3:You ever been in a relationship where your aspirations are not the same?
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 3:Tell us about them.
Speaker 1:Currently and you know what the shitty part is I feel like this is live by the way.
Speaker 2:Yep See, so I'm going to give you a second.
Speaker 3:Let's do this. I'm going to give you a second to think about what you may or may not say remember what I just did, the first and the second.
Speaker 2:Remember how about your first husband, then your second husband and then we skipped over the third one I don't have a third husband but your third relationship you're good?
Speaker 3:yeah, all right, so I'm going to cut the music and have you decided to skip whatever it is you were getting?
Speaker 2:ready to say oh no, there's doubling down. As we, as you, should rock and roll some matches to burn that bridge.
Speaker 5:Rock the boat, rock the boat, so I'll get my big spoon, my current the good news is we've gained a viewer.
Speaker 3:Go ahead.
Speaker 1:Okay, my current. We are struggling to be on the same page for timing and things. I think that we possibly have the same goals as to where we want to be, but I don't think it's a big deal if he gets there or not or how long time.
Speaker 1:So what you're saying is you think your ending point is the same, but the the speed with which you will arrive is far different right like in the route to get there probably in the route on how to get there, but like we're not braden's age age anymore, yeah, and I feel like he doesn't realize that. Yeah, so we're not. We're not young, we don't have a lot of this time and Audrey's getting older and right now we're not in a good place.
Speaker 3:Like with you know it's funny you mention that not to hijack what you're saying, but when our renovations were happening last year on the house like it drove me crazy because it's weird you say that because that was. My thought is hey, we're burning an entire season.
Speaker 1:Yeah, an entire summer.
Speaker 3:And just misery. And then you start worrying that you know something could happen and you know and could happen and you know, and then we go through all this and we don't even get to enjoy it, all of the work and thought and everything that goes into it, and sometimes you have to just live with that. But I know exactly I understand the age thing with that, because it certainly does make an impact.
Speaker 5:I've started to like being in my 30s now, like I've really started to feel that because when you're in your 20s you're like I don't like you.
Speaker 3:I'm being in my 30s now. Jams is at the end of her 30s.
Speaker 2:I'm two years into my 30s. Aren't you 36?
Speaker 1:Shut up, oh yeah, I love you no 38. Yeah, I love you, no 38.
Speaker 2:You're 38? You don't look 38. Thank you, I was serious, I thought you were 36. Thank you.
Speaker 3:You don't look 38. You look 42. That's what the lady at the grocery store told me, but no like.
Speaker 5:When you're in your 20s, you're like I have all of the time to get to that goal. When you're in your 30s, you're like I wish I were a little closer to that goal. Because in, in, because really you want to spend, like ideally, you should spend your 40s and your 50s enjoying what you've built correct instead of still building so my, my thought process on it is right now and posh and and a little bit of it is.
Speaker 1:You know, I went back to school. I went for a different career after you know, 12 years and then I'm back at one of those careers and just temporarily though, I mean no, I mean I'm. I'm there because the insurance is really good um, and it's an easy job and it's an easy job and I can still do my other career right and I can still make sure that I have plenty of money, but I feel like I'm not enjoying life. I'm not enjoying.
Speaker 5:No, you're working like you should have in your 20s Right Three jobs and doing the kind of constant hustle thing.
Speaker 1:The constant hustle and then, on top of it, having this house that's not getting completed. So I'm hustling and I don't have time. I don't have the time to just like. You know, we went kayaking on Sunday and that was a great time, but then it's like fuck.
Speaker 5:But then you feel all of the stuff that you didn't get done right?
Speaker 1:no, and there's, there's, no, there's no, just relaxing. So I just, I'm struggling. Uh, you know, I'm, we're, we're on the struggle.
Speaker 5:I think I think I've said in here before there's there's like a time in your lives when you should find the couch on the side of the road and that's your living room couch, right like you should live poor and in squalor and that's how you should be living.
Speaker 5:But you live that way so that you can move up, so you can take a step up totally agree I think so many people get caught up in the wanting to be at that step that they start out there and then they have to go back to squalor at a time that they shouldn't be in squalor, and I've done it a couple of times.
Speaker 1:I think that's what my problem is is I won't.
Speaker 5:Like you've been on the cycle.
Speaker 1:I've been on the oh shit, let's. We're starting over, we're trying to, we're well, me personally, you know I've been married twice, um, divorced twice, and I've been in this relationship longer than either of my marriages, and so I guess that's what you need a relationship with no commitment apparently um I've, I've been in this you know constant state of.
Speaker 2:Engaged.
Speaker 1:No constant state of Construction.
Speaker 4:Not just construction your house, yeah, just overall construction, yeah.
Speaker 1:And I'm just ready to not be.
Speaker 5:And I think for, in this situation, your partner this is why you guys are on such a different page to him, being in construction is the same thing as being done yeah, well to him the journey.
Speaker 3:I think as a direction, yes, moving. I'm going to get this done if I needed to. It could be done in no time, but in his mind in his mind because it could be done.
Speaker 1:Then it basically is done, or so there's no reason to hurry and take some extra time we can leave this for how it is, because it's okay.
Speaker 5:Yeah, it'll be okay just like this it's, but that's been my that.
Speaker 3:That's why I struggled so much with the construction phase of of our renovation last year is because I wanted to enjoy it. I am 50.
Speaker 5:I am not in my 40s and 30s or 30s and she's not in her 40s either.
Speaker 3:Don't gesture isn't he no oh, he's not in his 40s and I'll be turning 38.
Speaker 1:Yeah, in february.
Speaker 3:Yes, so I but I totally understand where you're coming from and why you're struggling with that. Now, I don't think it's insurmountable, but it certainly does not make life easy. No it doesn't so and I can understand kind of the mental anguish that you'd be going through there. So I just did a quick Google search, as I like to do. And here is my Google. Here's what I searched Advice for couples who have different outlooks. You think that's fair break up?
Speaker 5:yeah, I think that's a valid point what do you mean?
Speaker 3:you think that's a valid point I don't know.
Speaker 5:I don't know how two people with completely different outlooks can balance yeah, I don't were pierced.
Speaker 2:Stop being mean to me.
Speaker 3:What is the big thing about that?
Speaker 2:I don't know it's weird. Anyway, a lot like pennies. I don't like it Moving on.
Speaker 5:Like they taste like copper, we're not tasting that no.
Speaker 3:Those. Probably here's what Google suggests, and J amanda I brayden. We can all talk about each one of these and just see if we think they would work. If you're having trouble with, uh, having different outlooks, communicate regularly, share thoughts and emotions to maintain mutual understanding. Do you do that?
Speaker 5:yeah, you wait until you pop yeah, you, your guys's communication is jams, loses her shit, screams at everybody and then they go back to pretending like nothing happened that's how her and I used to do it.
Speaker 3:your outlook, though, is is the opposite of her, because you too, while you might be throwing some stones, I'm not throwing stones. I don't mean that in stones. No, she doesn't mean, did you?
Speaker 1:hear that no, no you sound like Kamala Harris. I guess I do say it, I'm just nice about it.
Speaker 3:Until you're not.
Speaker 1:Until I pop.
Speaker 5:Too nice that it sounds like a oh hey, this is just a suggestion, yeah that that's how it always was with brianna and I.
Speaker 2:It's like we went to goddamn marriage counseling and the the dude that was getting paid a ridiculous amount of money. He was like you know, when you guys have these issues, say it right then. And there, um, hello, I want to talk to you. Yeah, and it would always. You know, for like a day I kid you, not for like a day, be like, hey, I didn't like that.
Speaker 2:She would say it to me and I was like, okay, you know, got it, thank you and then it was like oh cool, you haven't talked to me in three weeks about something you don't like, sweet. And then I would get something thrown at me and I've hated you for three weeks now and and I'm like wait a second, whoa, what did the nice?
Speaker 3:doctor say Nice, doctor, that makes all that money. Amanda bottles up. Amanda will have the conversation with you in her head.
Speaker 5:No need to have it out loud.
Speaker 2:She already knows what she would say.
Speaker 1:She'll have what she would say and what you would say.
Speaker 3:And then she hashes it out, and then she either gets over it in three or four days or she doesn't, and that is not always easy.
Speaker 2:I will never forget the one time I came downstairs to this podcast and it was just he and I and he was like Amanda's mad at me. And I was like, well, I'll be asking. And she was, you, hold on, it was funny. He said Amanda's mad at me and I think he told me to ask you and I was like why are you mad at Pop? And you said he cheated on me in my dream. Oh, that's true. And what was her name? It was a waitress, and it started with an A or something and I with an A or something and I was like you remember? Oh my God, sorry, you're in trouble again. No, the waitress told me.
Speaker 3:That's what it was. Look how angry she is and it was a dream. She was unconscious, but in her head it was like maybe that really did happen and I just forgot it was so real. No, no, no. She knew it was a dream and still was angry. I could taste what the food tasted like.
Speaker 2:It. I could taste what the food tasted, like it was real. I woke up, the taste was in my mouth, and then you know what? You cheated on me. She was blonde, wasn't she, some blonde bitch? She had a weird name A weird name and that was ridiculous.
Speaker 5:And I was making fun of her name in the dream. He's going to cheat on me with somebody named whatever it was, women are creatures Nonsense.
Speaker 3:I would try and communicate with my first wife and it was a complete brick wall. Everything was them people. Like I said, even Eddie knows.
Speaker 2:Eddie knows he's talking nice to them.
Speaker 3:And it's impossible when you're with someone that just refuses to see another way. That's super frustrating.
Speaker 5:Yeah, that would be way that's super frustrating.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that would be irritating. That is super frustrating. Next piece of advice from Google be respectful. It is you, because when you put your hands down, it made the noise again.
Speaker 2:Dude, she's over here still doing it. I did this for a reason.
Speaker 5:Stop it. I'm moving. So the microphone's in my mouth, I had to doing it. I did this for a reason. Stop it, I'm moving. So the microphone's in my mouth, I had to move it.
Speaker 3:Have a high level of regard and respect for each other and don't condescend your partner.
Speaker 1:Brianna called me fat once in a fight I am putting my life in danger.
Speaker 2:That's why you can't even run the run you guys do, and I was like, oh, we're going below the belt oh, it was because below the belt tells a different story about her during the fight.
Speaker 3:She said it and I was like, wow you of all people are calling me fat here's what he also did in those moments. This stupid jackass, what'd you want to say would be fighting with her. And then he would say oh yeah, you know what my family says about you that you don't know we make fun of you for saying we was, because your grammar sucks and you said that one time Her grandpa's still there. I don't know about him, grandma Grammar.
Speaker 1:He knows, that's what he did this for.
Speaker 5:Shut up man. We are her grandpa, what?
Speaker 1:do you mean?
Speaker 3:I don't know about her grandma. I was talking about her grandma. I mean no, Collegials, that made me sweat. Have you ever been? I know Brayden was condescending because those two couldn't have a conversation without the two. Both of you gave me so much anxiety when you would talk to each other.
Speaker 5:I would listen even when you weren't fighting, just speaking in the living room. I'm like you fucking talk to somebody like that, both of you. It wasn just speaking in the living room.
Speaker 3:I'm like you fucking talk to somebody like that Both of you.
Speaker 5:It wasn't just him. Oh yeah, no, that's how.
Speaker 3:I knew that relationship was dead. Yeah, and that's how I, that's why I pushed.
Speaker 5:Because you can't even talk to each other. Nice Jesus.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, because.
Speaker 2:You can't even have basic civil decency, you guys. That's my point.
Speaker 5:It was so bad If that's what you say in front of other people, in front of your family.
Speaker 1:She talked to you like a piece of shit.
Speaker 3:No, it was both. It was reciprocal. It was both. Yeah, it was both of them.
Speaker 2:Hey Braden, why don't you change that 14th diaper today while I sit on my fat ass? Okay, All right.
Speaker 3:All right, Houston, three Colts zero. I'm watching Me too. Oh so, honey, do you ever think I am condescending to you?
Speaker 2:Dumb question. Why would you do that?
Speaker 1:Yes, oh.
Speaker 5:Huh, huh. No, I don't think so, thank you. Now he might in a mood.
Speaker 2:Amanda's in a good mood today. Yeah, that's good to know.
Speaker 5:Let's in a good mood today, yeah, he might in a mood become a little condescending, but A little what. Condescension, condescending A bunch, but that's one thing that will Like. He says, I like to bottle up. So you say something I don't like, I'm just going to swallow it and then murder you in your sleep. For it.
Speaker 2:Probably You're going to know about it in four days. I swear to God.
Speaker 5:Because because, listen, wait until Wednesday. You just wait. Listen, linda. The reason I don't, the reason I don't respond in the moment, is because I have learned I can be a little hot headed and sometimes my anger is kind of crazy did you learn that last week? So I I like to hold on to it and then think about it and say, no, that was crazy, don't be mad about that. Problem is I already spent three days being mad about it three days at At least. Three days.
Speaker 3:Everyone needs to remember. She started questioning one thing and slept on the back porch.
Speaker 2:This is the same woman that slept outside on lawn chair.
Speaker 4:It was a small love seat.
Speaker 5:Was it inside or outside? Furniture is what I'm saying. I made a fire to stay warm.
Speaker 2:She made a fire from scratch. She got all manly and shit, I don't need nobody. She got a. What was the Yep?
Speaker 3:Each time she blew on it she was like I hate it here.
Speaker 2:I'm leaving him. Braxton, pack your things. We're sleeping on the porch tonight. We'll be gone before he wakes up.
Speaker 5:Mommy the concrete's cold Lay down being condescending goes. That's one thing that I come up for air on pretty quickly, oh my Colts six Houston three, and that was a nice play.
Speaker 3:I don't even like Alec Pierce, so good.
Speaker 5:Anywho, you didn't even hear what I said. Yeah, I did Say it again. I would like you to repeat it actually.
Speaker 3:You know what?
Speaker 5:When we first said it.
Speaker 3:I knew it, but now I do not. It's left my head.
Speaker 5:I know it. What I said was what she said was when it comes to someone being condescending towards me.
Speaker 3:Condescending.
Speaker 5:I don't have as good of a Restraint on that, so I snap I come up from there. Actually a few times that he has done it. I take a big breath Square up, we're going to have it out now.
Speaker 3:Six months she has maybe Stood up to me more than our entire relationship. Good, and I don't mean stand up to me like I mistreat her, because I respect Amanda.
Speaker 5:No, but I think any couple I mean you get comfortable, and so you're not as careful with how you come across. Or if you're angry about something you snap, get it, and so you're not as careful with how you come across. Or if you're angry about something, you snap. And I think to be balanced and to be fair, sometimes the other one's got to say hey.
Speaker 3:I didn't deserve that. Yeah, number three from Google on advice for couples on different trajectories Compromise, be open to your partner's opinion, but don't sacrifice your own values.
Speaker 5:Let's talk about that, brayden if you could have only compromised and just done everything her way, it would have been fine.
Speaker 2:I don't have any values. I'm struggling with that now.
Speaker 5:That's because you weren't allowed to have any for seven years.
Speaker 2:I don't know what a value is.
Speaker 3:So do you feel like you compromise your values? Jams.
Speaker 1:Yes, in what way? All the ways.
Speaker 2:Be more Pacific, damn it.
Speaker 1:Okay, I compromise my values on trash. There's a lot of trash.
Speaker 2:Okay, are they?
Speaker 3:recyclable. So what you're saying is there are items around, whether it be actual trash wrappers or whatever, and you want that clean immediately out of your life. And his viewpoint is nope, we need to do something else with this. It's okay here until.
Speaker 5:I'm ready to handle it Until at a later date, I can take care of it.
Speaker 3:Got it Brayden, how about you?
Speaker 2:Yeah, is a value quality time with your family.
Speaker 3:So yeah, I mean your value is, I like to spend time with my family.
Speaker 2:Is a value, like a family man like I'm, a family, man, values are anything that you stand for Anything that's important to you. Absolutely. I compromise all of them for her you did.
Speaker 5:That was the thing is. Compromising. Your previous relationship was if you would just do everything exactly the way she wanted. Everything was fine, yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I guess so.
Speaker 5:You want to see your family once every three months Not acceptable.
Speaker 2:Oh, with the yes, yeah, everything was done. It was her way or the highway. And if I ever bucked up it was a knockout, drag out fight. And typically, I remember one scenario we were on the. We were at Western and I turned the car around. I was like, all right, cool, we just won't go, don't worry about it. And she jerked the steering wheel and said turn back around. Jerked the steering wheel and said turn back around, I'm going 40. And I remember that vividly and I was like, well, no, you don't want to go, we won't go. And it was, but it was always like at the planning.
Speaker 3:So, what she was going to say was you're not going to not go and then tell them that it's because of me. Oh, wait.
Speaker 2:Well, always at the planning of everything, it was cool.
Speaker 5:It was fine.
Speaker 2:And then, when we get, there it's like, hey, when are we leaving? Well, we just got here. What do you mean? Well, we have other things to do. I'm like, well, we're going to hang out for a little bit. And it was always something. And then it was values of, like fantasy football. If I was on my phone too much, you know, I'm not paying attention to my family and being her jet and Maverick, and if it was, if you want to play video games, okay, well, you're, you know that's taking time away from I. Wouldn't do it during the day, I would do it at night. Well, that's taking time away from her. And it was all I could never really have a. Are values hobbies? No, no, I didn't have any of those either.
Speaker 5:So I think I think what you said is accurate, because you were in such a uncompromising relationship for so long that you never really got to find yourself as an adult. That's why I tell people don't get married in high school, because you the person you are at 18, 19, 20, 21 years old is a child. Still, nobody at that age wants to hear that, but you are still a child and you don't know who you're going to be. You have an idea and you want to get to a certain point, but you need to just live through that and spin your wheels.
Speaker 2:I'm 26. I feel like I'm not even the same person I was when I was 24. I feel like I'm a different person, completely no, but you have major life things going on.
Speaker 5:Can you imagine like, like run your life? No, Brianna.
Speaker 3:You are in such a better place Like I watch you act as an adult more now than ever.
Speaker 2:Maybe I was just doing that out of spite.
Speaker 5:What Not?
Speaker 2:being adult-y.
Speaker 3:Yeah, no, you didn't know. You didn't know what it looked like.
Speaker 5:You never had the time to find out who you were as an adult.
Speaker 3:You were constantly in a fight for your life and your relationship, and that makes it hard to be an adult, yeah. Next piece of advice Acknowledge oh no, fight the behavior, not your partner. This is a big one. If your partner does something that hurts you, focus on the behavior and don't make sweeping generalizations. That has both of you written all over it.
Speaker 5:I don't know what you speak of. Basically, all it means is oh, you say I shouldn't eat, that you must think I'm fat and fucking ate me. And we're never talking again.
Speaker 2:I walked in. There's been several occasions your dad called me fat today. No, he didn't. No, he didn't, no, he didn't. I called Jamie fat once, sexy fat with a PH.
Speaker 1:That is not how that went. I was in the room.
Speaker 2:It was right in that room.
Speaker 3:I said you're sexy fat.
Speaker 5:That's exactly what I said I gotta tell you it was this time of year. Okay, I would leave.
Speaker 1:I said oh my god, I'm so fat. He said you're sexy fat.
Speaker 2:And I think if everybody could feel the room just I said you're not supposed to agree. And his dumb ass was like, yeah, but with a pH.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but with a pH.
Speaker 2:No, he's fat like the old clothing.
Speaker 5:When I say I'm fat.
Speaker 1:when I say I'm fat, you know what I mean and you say well, you're sexy fat.
Speaker 3:Your mom burst out laughing when I said it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because you're a fucking idiot.
Speaker 3:She laughed because she saw your demise coming.
Speaker 2:Hey, by the way, when you guys would have it out like that because I know he would make jokes like that and he would just be like, oh goddamn, I have to go upstairs with her. Was it until 2 am that you guys would fight, or would he just go to sleep?
Speaker 1:He would probably just pop a Zambian and go to sleep.
Speaker 4:Or two or three.
Speaker 2:I just don't want to be myself.
Speaker 5:Right now she's still talking. Here's a fourth, next piece of advice.
Speaker 3:She's still talking. Here's a fourth Next piece of advice Acknowledge feelings, even if you disagree, acknowledge and empathize on how they feel. That's going to be hard. That's going to be hard for you.
Speaker 2:I could never.
Speaker 1:It's 100% hard for me Because you feel like you've given as much as you can. So I guess my big thing is I can't feel sorry for somebody who is not helping themselves yeah so when there are problems, um, and and maybe because I've done a lot of helping myself because of all the problems I have have had, um that when you't, when you know that there are issues and you don't seek the help, it's hard for somebody to still have, that you know, sympathy or empathy for you.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Like when Brayden went back to Brianna, like I didn't have which time this last time especially, I'm on the same boat, oh yeah.
Speaker 3:There was a time, too, when you sent me that dear John letter and I lost my cool, yep, yep, I and it was kind of the similar on this one too. No, it wasn't, I didn't let you know. Well, you didn't have to because I knew, yeah, and I hate this. Like I was sorry I was, I couldn't acknowledge or empathize on how you felt because, like she just said, man, the whole world sees this and you don't, and you can't, and you can't.
Speaker 5:And at this point, you've just got to this, and you don't, and you can't, and you can't, and at this point, at this point, refusing to see it, we've given you every piece of help we can.
Speaker 2:We can't do it for you now. You guys the studio, you guys love alexis, you love we do makia says, feelings are not facts.
Speaker 5:I think you said you cannot have sympathy or empathy. I think it's important to have which is sympathy without having empathy or the other way.
Speaker 3:Sympathy is what you want. Yeah, empathy is not sympathy.
Speaker 5:I understand that you're feeling depressed and things like that, but you have to understand you're doing it to your damn self.
Speaker 1:And you can't help the person. So I understand depression, I go through it. But my depression is way different than you know somebody else's depression.
Speaker 5:what makes me depressed and fall apart doesn't necessarily depression, is not all the same, you know well, and there's different kinds of clinical or like spurred on by right, a thing like selling the only house that you've ever had and, yes, having your entire world crumble around you exactly, fucking bitch.
Speaker 2:Hope you know that shit. And your face you and braxton get the same face when you're just wait and he, like his lips, come together and he does something funny for this oh yeah I know it's coming I think it's even better that braxton has picked it up he, he's picked it up, because he just waits.
Speaker 3:There it is.
Speaker 1:But yeah, I just think that I do struggle there and I try to remind myself of that because you know, my mom actually said it to me hey Jams, for someone who has these types of issues like depression and, you know, anxiety and stuff like that, you're really not being very sympathetic to someone who is developing sad things. Oh, and that's good advice. Actually it is, and I said I know is there a diagnosis? I know I'm not, doesn't need to be, we see it, but we have eyeballs. I think it's my.
Speaker 3:My problem is I have for so long with nothing changing yeah, so it's well, there has to be, there has to be a timetable right that everybody's on the same page. Yeah, on in everything, hey you can't just live miserable because you're so long like I understand you're struggling, that's.
Speaker 5:That's one thing I've always had with you know mental health and especially when it comes to relationships. Like someone can struggle and be struggling and you want to be there and support them, but at some point like we can't just live here, we gotta we gotta, we gotta make our way back up.
Speaker 2:yeah, that's what her, that's what alexis and I are doing right now.
Speaker 3:that house is in shambles, shambles, everything is shitty right now, but if you're in the beginning, shambles is okay yeah.
Speaker 1:And I think Denny lived there a long time with me, Like with my depression and my issues.
Speaker 2:I yeah, I got kicked out a couple times. Okay, that was on your undoing fucker.
Speaker 1:You probably need kicked out now, but hey, that was on your undoing, fucker you probably need kicked out now.
Speaker 2:But hey man, I just want to let you know that sometimes you got to shut the fuck up.
Speaker 5:Your dad's going on a work trip You're leaving Sometimes it's just one of those times you got to shut the fuck up.
Speaker 1:I mean, do you feel that, like you know, because you always said, you know you see happiness on the other side, but you can't build a bridge to get there? Um, and I well, audrey struggles with that. Um, you know she wants something and she's like but I can't do this or that, audrey, you have to find the solution, not the problems. And I've, I feel like in this relationship, I've I have really tried doing that.
Speaker 3:I agree, I agree, I don't, I don't disagree with that at all. And it's funny that we're talking about this because the picture that we've circulated of Audrey being a cheerleader to me shows one enjoying the shit out of what she's doing. Yeah, she wasn't nervous, she wasn't self-conscious, she was just out there doing her belly Didn't hurt, because she was worried what everybody was going to do and say.
Speaker 2:And I walked up to the bleachers and delivered there. Didn't deliver, but the boys went up there to see the girls and everybody. And I walked past Audrey again like this, flipping her off, and she rolled her eyes and smiled and I was like now go be a cheerleader. Yeah, oh, that was so cool, that was so cool.
Speaker 3:The pictures of her are great and it's fun to watch her, and that's a testament to all of us in this room.
Speaker 5:I sat in the goddamn kitchen doing cheers. I know you did.
Speaker 3:Well, but I mean you've done a great job of not letting her sulk in that type stuff. You've you know, not just tried to force her up. You've tried to help her through her different things and remain positive and push her through her negative times because she she has anxiety but she doesn't have any type of depression.
Speaker 1:No, no. She has anxiety because if she thinks someone's going to think something poorly about, her.
Speaker 5:She's not going to do it. That's her problem.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's her problem with school is when she doesn't feel good at something.
Speaker 3:Yep, she wants to shut it off and not do it. Yeah, next piece of advice spend more time together. Spending time together can help you reconnect after growing apart.
Speaker 5:Oh boy, you can only do that once you've fixed everything else, if you spend more time together while the fighting's still happening, guess what? We just have a dateline.
Speaker 3:Fuck you Google, you don't know shit.
Speaker 5:Fuck you Google. Don't give that advice to people, they're the good AMZs. You are the reason there's more domestic violence now.
Speaker 2:Well that, brayden, brayden.
Speaker 3:Next, celebrate good news. Responding with joy and interest when your partner tells you about something good can strengthen your bond. Hey, I weeded the flower bed. Celebrate that.
Speaker 5:Somebody else did that. Oh no, there was that one time, yeah, and then you got a tattoo. Huh, oh yeah, oh, you wanted me to do these three things that were inside. You gave me a list to do.
Speaker 3:I just want to let you know that sometimes you got to shut the fuck up.
Speaker 5:I got my big spoon.
Speaker 3:Stir it up. And then the last piece of advice. We're going to move through these quick because it's about time for AMS and jams. Last piece of advice unless anybody has anything to add about celebrating good news, Anybody Jams Brayden, Brayden never had good news to celebrate.
Speaker 2:I didn't get a lot with her.
Speaker 5:Hey, good news, I'm deploying I got a job offer. Yeah, you shouldn't take that. Last piece of advice, consider counseling.
Speaker 3:A couples. Therapist can provide strategies to help you restore trust, intimacy and communication.
Speaker 5:That only works, if you want to listen.
Speaker 2:Attorneys, politicians and goddamn counselors are the three biggest cancers of this society.
Speaker 1:I don't know. There's some good counselors.
Speaker 2:Counselors are bullshit. They are money hungry, smooth-talking people. I can be a counselor. It's bullshit.
Speaker 5:All of it's bullshit.
Speaker 2:No, you couldn't oh is that how you feel? You're right, give me $400. Thank you, oh, is that how you feel?
Speaker 3:You're wrong. $400 please, and you're pissed off. $450 now. I will tell you a bad counselor which you can't tell the difference before you get there. A bad counselor can wreck a relationship.
Speaker 3:A counselor that takes a side can wreck a relationship. And when you go to a counselor the one that just sits and says, well, what do you think you should do Fuck you Like it's, not, like that it should be. When you go to them, they should tell you they should help you work through the feelings, not tell you to work through the feelings. If I could do that, If I could just do that, I wouldn't be here.
Speaker 2:Counseling is bullshit.
Speaker 3:Thanks, I knew that I went to a counselor about her and the male counselor asked me for a picture Swear to.
Speaker 2:God, let me see the rack Swear to God.
Speaker 3:That's incredible, he said do you have a picture of this girl. You're fucked. I said I mean, I suppose I do, but tell me why that would matter.
Speaker 5:Why that's relevant. I just want to see Okay. Did you think we're bros hanging out at a bar?
Speaker 3:Never went back.
Speaker 1:Yeah that's weird. Yeah, did I know that story Probably. I don't remember if I told you.
Speaker 3:I probably didn't talk to you a lot about counseling after we broke up.
Speaker 2:That was probably about the time you guys matched on Christian Mingle or whatever it was. It wasn't Christian Mingle, it was Whores.
Speaker 3:Whorescalatorcom. I was looking for one, found ya.
Speaker 2:First match. God dammit Right there she is you guys seem very compatible. Let me tell ya. We're not Give me the manager Right now. Give me the you we're looking for a whore.
Speaker 3:We're not. Give me the manager right now. Give me the manager. Speaking of manager.
Speaker 4:It's the most wonderful time.
Speaker 5:Of this goddamn podcast.
Speaker 1:Did you really think this was going to be a feel good segment?
Speaker 5:Are you insane like me? Welcome to Relationship Advice with Ams and Jams. Well, you asked for our advice. We just hope you're ready for brutal honesty.
Speaker 3:And brutal. It shall be like what I'm going to do to Jams the next time she sets a drink down in my intro. God, dear Jams and Jams. I have been with my wife for 14 years. We have two kids. Sex has always been okay from my perspective.
Speaker 5:I always wanted to take it a step further and she was not interested.
Speaker 3:A step further I would let her know my desires and she would acknowledge, but never act on it.
Speaker 5:I need to know what these desires are.
Speaker 3:I'm getting older. I want to be connected both emotionally and sexually. I think I have to leave her. It's crazy to think about leaving a relationship where so much is good but I am dying inside ams and jams. What should I do?
Speaker 2:don't leave her over a finger in your butt, dude, you'll be all right, get over it leave, it's just one thinner you've answered it for yourself.
Speaker 5:I mean, what are you asking her to do that she's not willing to do? Is it just like you need more connection or you need some kinky shit to happen?
Speaker 2:Yeah, sounds kinky to me. The straps go around your legs and your back.
Speaker 1:But if she's not willing to give it to you, you know way too much about a strap-on. Go.
Speaker 3:Yeah, let's, yeah, let's. I don't even know.
Speaker 4:I have some breaking news that has just come across the desk in the. Every Joke has a Little Truth studio. Take it away, Denny.
Speaker 3:Thank you, Tabitha. It turns out that Brayden has worn a strap-on as it turns Whoa, whoa.
Speaker 2:I opened the closet in my mom's house and I saw everything once.
Speaker 5:Turns out Brayden needed counseling.
Speaker 3:I told you guys this story no I don't know that story.
Speaker 2:No, I opened the closet, it was in this giant box and I was like mom and she was like, don't go in there. That was it. Left the room.
Speaker 1:Okay, anyway, did you say. Sorry, I was just looking for your weed.
Speaker 2:There were instructions on the back.
Speaker 3:Oh Jesus, Did you ask who wore it?
Speaker 2:I have an idea. It was the bitch with the shoulders broader than mine. She's just a linebacker, so I wanted.
Speaker 3:I want to be connected, both emotionally and sexually. What do we think?
Speaker 2:ain't you, ain't not and not anally he said that it was a typo in his email.
Speaker 5:That's what he wanted to say this dude, that's the only. He's a man, that's the only thing it's his butt or hers of them.
Speaker 2:She's not doing one of them.
Speaker 1:Well, I mean, I understand Of course she is. You'd be like just leave, I'm sorry.
Speaker 5:I'm not doing it. I'm not doing it. You know, Nakia says don't leave the 80% for the 20%. I agree that. Are you going to throw everything away? For like a bigger hiccup to you? So is it?
Speaker 3:20%, or is it 60%? Sounds like he's very interested in whatever he's not getting.
Speaker 5:I mean, maybe find a resolution, like talk to him and be like hey, I really need this fulfilled in my life. Is there a way we can get it done?
Speaker 3:Sounds like he's done that, so what's our advice?
Speaker 5:Not just like between each other. Like can we find a?
Speaker 2:hall pass somewhere else.
Speaker 5:Give the advice on.
Speaker 3:hey, if you've asked and this is what's happening here's your advice. If you haven't asked, here's what you should do Go.
Speaker 5:Don't leave over that and just find.
Speaker 3:Not being fulfilled sexually and you want them to stay? Yeah, no.
Speaker 5:If everything else is fine.
Speaker 1:No, you need to leave because eventually you'll just cheat. You got to fix it. Yeah, I think you got to fix it. You got to fix it. If you can't fix it and she doesn't want to do what you want to do, then eventually you will be broken up because there will be resentment.
Speaker 5:I mean, I think it's important to remember. He said the sex life is okay, so it's not like they don't have intimacy. He just needs like next intimacy right back in.
Speaker 2:We don't know.
Speaker 5:You tell me what it is yeah, I mean I need to know, like, how weird is this weird?
Speaker 3:all right, so this one. I guess we put the pause, but gotta pause. It gotta right back in and come back. We've never asked anyone to send us yes, we have. Well, we've, we've asked, but this one, we really we need clarification.
Speaker 2:He's like it's okay, but it's not okay, so what is it though?
Speaker 5:what? Is it another guy? Is it another girl? Is it another girl Is?
Speaker 2:it your butt? Is it her butt? We need to know. Moving on to the next one, dear Ams and Jams, this all started around eight months ago.
Speaker 3:My friend's wife let's call her Alexis, her friend told me that she and they were out at a club drinking and talking. This one isn't written very well so I'm going to have to muddle through it. She told me that she and they were out at a club drinking and talking. This one isn't written very well so I'm going to have to muddle through it. She told me that W W being her friend, the friend's wife. She told me that W said that she was texting her ex-boyfriend and sending inappropriate images to each other. She told me that W, the friend's wife, was doing this for four months until she found out and told me so.
Speaker 3:I went to my friend two days later and told him. He seemed very calm when I told him Fast forward. Six months later they are going through a divorce and his family is mad at me for making them divorce because they like his wife. Now my whole friend group is mad at me. I also feel bad for their two kids that had to go through it Ams and jams. What do I do? Should I cut ties with everyone?
Speaker 2:Don't write back in, please.
Speaker 5:Well, it sounds like you've already done what you did, so now you just got to live with the fallout.
Speaker 3:Yeah, let me ask you a question. Yes, sir, you know your friend's cheating, do?
Speaker 5:you think you should tell the friend? I think that's like the age dilemma do you my friend's cheating? Do I, should I tell?
Speaker 3:the spouse no, no, your friend's wife is cheating. Yes, would you tell him yes right. Your friend's wife is cheating. Would you tell him, yes, no, jams your friend's wife is cheating. Do you tell him. Your friend's wife is cheating. Do you tell them.
Speaker 1:Your friend's wife is cheating and you find out. That's my friend, that's my best friend. Yes.
Speaker 3:Why is it your best friend?
Speaker 5:Well, that's just it. Like there's kind of like a, you have the loyalty to the friend.
Speaker 3:This person's right, though, Like maybe they could have worked through their divorce. Do you know if I found out that?
Speaker 1:one of my friends knew that my boyfriend was cheating and didn't tell me I'd be fucking livid. They wouldn't be my friend anymore. You didn't have the decency to tell me that.
Speaker 5:I was being cheated on the whole time. That's what I was trying to say before. You just wanted to break an answer.
Speaker 3:What if you're wrong?
Speaker 5:Right, because that's the other side of it is. This was third party, this was someone. Yeah, this chick had a friend somebody else that then told that was told that this was happening, like she didn't see it herself.
Speaker 3:It was happening because they're getting divorced or just the accusation says if caleb cheated.
Speaker 1:I'm ratting.
Speaker 3:Thank you, nakia, like I was only going to cheat with building materials.
Speaker 1:But if Nakia cheated, sorry, Derek, not telling you.
Speaker 2:That's true though. Yeah, it is true. Where's your?
Speaker 5:loyalty lie to your original friend. As couples grow, they become closer and all together that's really hard to decide whether or not to say anything or not. But to our reader's point hearing it third party though.
Speaker 1:Hey look, this is what I heard. Heard.
Speaker 5:I don't know if it's true and maybe that's why it was six months and maybe that's why he was so calm when he told her, because you're like, you know what? This is what was heard through the grapevine but it started him looking and he found other things. The thing is, what you said didn't cause their divorce. The actions of that couple caused their divorce.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and nobody should be mad at you stay out of it people that weren't.
Speaker 2:Even my friend told me she was cheating.
Speaker 3:You still didn't listen.
Speaker 2:Everybody shut up.
Speaker 3:That's different. I don't know If you know somebody's cheating?
Speaker 5:let them figure it out. If Denny cheated, would you tell me, fuck yeah, before or after you hit him With your car? Oh, after.
Speaker 1:He'd be dead and I'd be like Amanda, listen, something happened, except we all know that that happen, so you two could be together. If Amanda cheated, would you tell Denny?
Speaker 2:The answer's no.
Speaker 3:What's funny is she's like right now, she's like fuck yeah, I'd tell on Denny when it comes to Amanda, nah, probably not. You wouldn't no more dick dancing?
Speaker 1:I don't know.
Speaker 2:You have such a good life over here, you wouldn't Not a chance. Hey, don't do it again. Don't do it again, don't do it again.
Speaker 1:Slap on the wrist. Can I see a picture? Was it good? Dear Ams and Jams Is he going to take care of both of us later on? Is he okay with the thrumple Our situation?
Speaker 3:Dear.
Speaker 2:Ams and Jams. I hate women.
Speaker 3:I do too. Hey man, just want to let you know, dear Ams and Jams, me and my wife have been together for 10 years this year and lately I'm not feeling appreciated or happy.
Speaker 2:Adios heifer.
Speaker 3:I'm just looking for some advice and maybe just want to vent or something. Let me explain my conundrum. This person wrote the word conundrum.
Speaker 5:I like this person.
Speaker 3:I'm a traditional man. That's a word I would use. I like when my wife cooks me food.
Speaker 5:does some house chores?
Speaker 3:You know the traditional wife roles yeah, fuck you. Oh, hey man, I just want to let you know that this was where you wrote it. You thought you should write it to us. But you see, I was able to make some very wise financial decisions when I was younger and am now an early retired man, so that leaves me at home practically all day.
Speaker 5:My wife works a 7-4 job.
Speaker 3:Even though she works, I'm still the breadwinner dwarfing her paycheck.
Speaker 2:This dude sucks.
Speaker 3:Now I understand, since I'm home and she isn't, that I need to take up a lot of the housework. I'm good with that. She just doesn't even help me in the slightest. She never cooks, never cleans. This woman won't even pick up after herself and if I mention it, well, I'm an asshole. As soon as she gets home, she goes straight to the bedroom, to our bed, and plays on her phone. I ask her why and she says it's her way of venting. Cool, I'm good with that.
Speaker 3:But all night I feel like I'm not getting any help and I'm feeling under or, I'm sorry, unappreciated. It's hard enough for me to be at home all day feeling like I'm let me check that. It's hard enough for me to be at home all day feeling like I'm order for her to be happy. I need to be working In order for her to be at home all day feeling like I'm order for her to be happy. I need to be working in order for her to be happy. I need to be working. She has told me how jealous she is of me, but I don't know what to do about that. Ams and jams. What do you all think? This dude sucks.
Speaker 1:I understand her frustration it's pretty easy to me.
Speaker 5:I think he needs to talk to her about especially cleaning up after herself. They should both still take. Doesn't fucking matter how much money you do or don't make. You are both members of that goddamn household. You should both take equal responsibility in it. I don't know why that concept is so hard for people to understand. It doesn't matter if you make $20,000 compared to his $60,000, or if you both make the same amount, or if one of you makes nothing and the other of you makes all of it. It's your goddamn house. You have it together. It's your mess to clean. It's your clothes to wash. It's your food to cook Both of you. So figure it out and just talk to her.
Speaker 3:Both of you.
Speaker 5:Both of so figure it out and just talk to her, both of yins, both of yins. Also, if you're feeling like this, I mean I think you need to do some self-reflecting of you know, before you retired, did you just make her do all of the work, and now she said, haha, fuck you, yeah, because, that's what I read, but I've got.
Speaker 3:I expect her to cook and clean.
Speaker 5:That was his attitude makes me think he probably spent the last 20 years treating her like shit.
Speaker 1:And now she's working and you're not.
Speaker 3:And now she says well, she had to do it when she was working, should she? Be able to come home and just go get straight in the bed. No, no, that's just it. Working seven to four.
Speaker 2:He's probably a miserable prick.
Speaker 5:Like their relationship. I think was probably done a long time ago.
Speaker 3:And he's just now seen.
Speaker 5:it Sounds like the relationship is probably on the rocks anyway Sounds like to me.
Speaker 2:Sounds like your conundrum got solved, prick.
Speaker 5:Rather than just leaving, I think you should talk to her and be like, hey, I don't know why people write into it.
Speaker 1:No, I was telling her, you should tell her to leave. She should just leave him Well she should, just he's got the money.
Speaker 3:Should he now? Should? She has a job.
Speaker 5:She's got a job, or they could try to work on their relationship and say, hey, I think somewhere along the road in the last, however long we've been married, we took a hard left turn.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 5:And we're not a couple anymore. If someone, if the other person can go, if you went and sat in our room and I would be in your face, what's wrong? Why are you? You're not touching me, you're not snuggling me, we're not eating dinner together, even if it's dinner that I cried over like me and alexis when we like give me the attention.
Speaker 2:Wherever we are, we have to be touching somehow if we, our feet always have to be touching. If they're not, one of us is upset.
Speaker 3:She probably Alexis has to Like that one. She takes the majority roll on. Well for you two to be touching. She definitely goes 60%. You only go four.
Speaker 1:Because she's taller. So everything else you must give her 60%. If your toesies have got a touch.
Speaker 5:You can sit on the short side of the sectional.
Speaker 2:When we lay down dude and she goes on the other side of the bed, I gotta get my fat ass over to her and I'm like, hey, stop going so far away, I can't reach.
Speaker 5:I sleep on his side of the bed because he has to sleep on the edge. He says he has the good air over there. I'm like fuck your good air, Come snuggle me.
Speaker 3:But I also sleep sideways on the bed.
Speaker 5:Your toes do touch my corner of the bed.
Speaker 3:That's because she rubs my butt until I go to sleep. Your butt, the best rubs, the best rubs. And she uses her fingernails.
Speaker 2:Yep, the best rubs.
Speaker 4:The best.
Speaker 3:You know what else is the best. It's time to talk about one thing I love, Brayden. One thing you love, one thing you hate.
Speaker 2:I hate that Jamie was late, because now my house is being showed with a lawn that's unmowed. I love that. Alexis is my girlfriend and my soon-to-be fiance and soon-to-be wife. I love it. I love everything about it.
Speaker 5:You probably got to get divorced first.
Speaker 2:Working on it, december 3rd Thanks.
Speaker 3:Mandarin, something you love, something you hate, oh boy.
Speaker 2:Is he running your mouth?
Speaker 5:Yeah, I was. I love my big spoon and stirring the spot. Is he relevant? I love hard fought football games, no matter the outcome.
Speaker 2:I will get emotional.
Speaker 5:I hate parents that just fucking sit there like bumps on a log and even when I turn around and tell them to start cheering, they go huh.
Speaker 1:Those were the faces I got when I said hey, can you guys cheer?
Speaker 5:They're out there playing their goddamn hearts out. Can you give a shit and stop talking to your little friends about what you do or don't, like that the coach is doing? Pay attention to your kids, who are breaking their little hearts right now. Yeah.
Speaker 3:That one goes out to you, Winger.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, it does God damn it. I was going to say it. I'm glad you did what? Yeah, it does God damn it. I was going to say it. I'm glad you did what. We'll talk about it after, because I'll air this bitch out Jams.
Speaker 3:something you love, something you hate.
Speaker 1:I love sleeping in.
Speaker 3:Obviously. That's why this podcast is still happening now, I know. If you're enjoying it on Facebook Live.
Speaker 5:Also I'm concerned that we have not heard YouTubecom Hide your hair.
Speaker 3:Tgc SOD.
Speaker 1:Huh, I'm concerned, she's concerned, I'm concerned. We have not heard a peep from those kids. I think they're being good and my hate is I. I sort of hate the struggle right now.
Speaker 3:You're going to get through it. Yep, because we all believe in you and we believe in what's going on. One way or another you're going to be fine. Yep, what's going on, one way or another, you're gonna be fine. Yeah, the epitome. You got this. I'll tell you what I love. I love adjustments. I love something that's broken broken getting fixed, and if I can use that to wrap around into this topic, this week, things can be fixed. If we're talking about football, we had a rough week last week and this week we didn't.
Speaker 3:We didn't win, but we went in really outnumbered but we played one hell of a game and I'm very happy with what we did and I think the fix is in.
Speaker 5:Do I have another love?
Speaker 3:Can I have another love? Yes, yes, you can take us out with one more love I normally have so much hate I should get an extra love, Take an extra love. And here's the problem you gotta do it fast.
Speaker 5:I love how smart Isabel is, because Denny asked her what she wanted, and not a candy, but Piper says a candy bar. Isabel wants a goddamn pool, a slide, a big Barbie, a big Jeep that she can put her Barbie in and a baby to go with the big Barbie and the big Jeep.
Speaker 3:All of that just to be good during the podcast. Hey head on over to thank God cancersavedourdivorcecom. There's more about us there. Hey, chico lives.
Speaker 4:Y'all, crazy bitch, r-d-i-v-o-r-c-e, you gotta fight.
Speaker 3:Well, we're finally updating this part of the outro. Find us at ThankGodCancerSavedOurDivorcecom. Where else can they find us, Jamie?
Speaker 1:You can search on Facebook for Thank God, cancer Saved Our Divorce. You can find us on Twitter, instagram and TikTok. If you at T-G-C-S-O-D, what's that stand for? Thank God, cancer saved our divorce TGC.
Speaker 3:SOD, correct, that's weird. That actually kind of lines up it does. We'll take it, thanks.